Tuesday, January 31, 2012

The Boy She Met Online

Ok if you recognize the title The Boy She Met Online as being a lifetime movie that is about, wait for it.... about a girl who met a boy online, then you are amazing!! I am a huge lifetime movie fan mostly because they give titles that say directly what they are about. But this post is not to talk about how magical that movie was (which is was). This post is to talk about the frightening yet interesting world of online dating.

I have to admit I absolutely love the couple on the eharmony commercials. They seem so happy and believable!! I realize that the couples probably are all actors that have never met that person before but let me just pretend that it's real.

I know that online dating used to be considered a shameful thing to do but with our increasingly technological world it's starting to make more sense.

Heck, I am only 20 years old and have only been single for 5 months (Wow! Had no idea it was that long.) but online dating is starting to look kind of appealing. Not saying that I will do it but if I can find a guy as hot and sincere seeming as the ones on the commercials I'll give a shot.

So for those of us on the fence about online dating I have listed the five reasons to GO FOR IT and the five reasons to DON'T DO IT.


1. Easy way to meet lots of singles
2. Easily tell if they are gansta or not.
Ex: "Wat ^ gurl? U lokn fly." Reply:...... (don't reply to that!)
3. Find people with similar interests.
4. They are putting their profile online too so you won't seem that desperate!
5. Narrow done by qualities you want


1. They may not actually be a single
2. They may not be an attractive, wealthy 26 year old man
3. They may not be a man at all....
4. People are different online than in person
5. OK they could be major creeps

So clearly a lot of people have had success with online dating and you may be one of those people!! Just decide what will fit your lifestyle best. And ALWAYS be safe when meeting strangers in real life. Always tell your friends/family where you are going. Meet in a public place. Never let them pick up. Set up a check in time with a friend to tell them everything is ok.

If you choose to venture into the world of online dating just be sure to stay act like a classy lady and not a crazy one like this girl.


Monday, January 30, 2012

Compliments from a Brother

For this story to make sense I must first let you all know that I'm a small town girl from a primarily white community. The first black kid we ever had in school wasn't till high school so moving to Kansas City was a major culture shock to me. I'll be the first to tell you that I think everyone is equal black, white, or purple we're all the same when you turn us inside out. But there are some definite cultural differences in what lingo we use and what is socially acceptable.

My campus is probably a mix of as many whites as blacks. And let me tell you I am just now getting used to these daily ego boosts. I love walking through the lobby of my dorm and having boys tell you how great you are looking. It's amazing, white guys take note!!

But sometimes we get lost in translation on some of the compliments. For instance we had a discussion today with my friend that I will call J about a compliment he gave us. 

J said that one of my girls was thick and she took that as being called fat! So of course she got upset and was horribly offended that he called her fat. The funny part was that he meant it as a compliment. When it comes to black boys being called thick is a good thing. 

Here's how he explained it: Guys don't want a girl that's to skinny. She has to have some meat on her bones (aka a booty) and that means she's thick but it's hott!!

Growing up I've always been taught thin is pretty but honestly I kind of like this meat on your bones philosophy. I wouldn't consider myself a girl with body image issues but I will admit I have felt the pressure to be a skinny minnie. I love that there is an entire race of people that appreciate women for being real and having real bodies!

Not to say that we shouldn't be healthy but 100 lbs isn't healthy for a lot of girls so they shouldn't have to feel like they need to meet that standard. 

I guess overall I just wanted to say that I appreciate guys appreciating me every once in a while regardless of race or whatever. It just so happens that black guys do it more. 

So when you get a compliment, even if you don't quite understand it, take it and say thanks and let it brighten your day!

As Always, Stay Classy


Saturday, January 28, 2012

Shouting on Mute: Why I Blog

Sometimes doesn't it feel like you are screaming to the world but your voice is on mute. It is as though no one can hear anything you are saying. They walk by completely unaware of your existence. I think this is the main reason I started writing when I was younger.

My very first diary entry dates all the way back to 4th grade but believe me most of that writing was not worth reading.

Since I started this blog I've had a lot of friends ask me what do you write about and why do you do it? The answer to the questions isn't always short and simple. I guess that basic answer is I write about my life as I see it and I do it for myself in the hopes that I can inspire, help, or at least entertain others.

The long answer is that it's comforting to know that we are not alone in the world. By writing my thoughts down I can connect with others that feel the same way I do. It's a beautiful thing to find like minded people in this world.

My original intention was for this blog to be a grieving process for my past relationship but other a few posts I wasn't really happy with I realized I had so many more things I wanted to say and talk about. I didn't want to be limited to rehashing the past over and over.

If you want to know what I write about I can tell you that I write about my thoughts while trying to be heartfelt, humorous, and leave you with a little lesson.

Hopefully this will help you better understand where I'm coming from and encourage you to write down your thoughts!!

Thanks for listening to my soap box rant. It's very much appreciated.

As Always, Keep it Classy


Friday, January 27, 2012

Zooey Deschanel: Making Quirky Cool

If you have ever seen Zooey Deschanel in her latest show New Girl you can probably guess exactly what this post is going to be about. Even if you have seen her in anything else she is in Yes Man, 500 Days of Summer, The Happening, and Almost Famous you'll understand that she is probably the cutest quirky girl there is.

But what I love about her is that she girls the awkward girl a fighting chance! Not only is she known for her quirkiness on screen but also the fact that she's gorgeous and such a likable character. 

As a girl or even just a person that would like to fit in, in society I can understand the pressure to be "normal." I've never considered myself to be sexy or suave so I feel like it was a major struggle through my early teens to try and be what I was "supposed to be." 

Laughing to loudly, being clumsy, telling those dead end stories that aren't so funny, these are all things that I tried to hide because I didn't want to be weird. What I think Zooey has done is make all those things that would seem out of place desirable qualities. 

Guys now openly appreciate and admire girls with a little extra pizzazz. Which means there is hope for girls like me and I'm sure many others!! 

So let this be my official declaration that awkwardness is in!!

Take a page out of Zooey's character, Jess's book and cry while watching Dirty Dancing over and over and over and over.... Make up a song to sing about everything. Most of all just be yourself and don't be afraid of what that is!!

As Always, Keep it Classy


Thursday, January 26, 2012

Keeping it Classy at the Club

While the title of this post may seem to be an oxymoron it in fact is possible to be classy at the club/bar. Many girls don't really make any sort of attempt to have any class at all which accounts for why we have such a negative perception. For those girls that really just want to go dance and have fun here are some tips to act and look classy at the club/bar.

Dane Cook's: I just wanna dance skit. Sooo true!!

  • Dress how you would like to be treated- The problem with so many girls that go to the club is that they dress like hookers. If you want men to just treat you like a piece of meat or you're looking for a one night stand then by all means displaying all the goods is the way to go. But if that's not the impression you want to give off then don't dress like it is. Simple as that. 

  • Sloppy drunk is never cute- After that 5th shot of tequila you may feel like you look like a million bucks but chances are you're not looking nearly as great as you think. You will either embarrass yourself or just attract the wrong type of guys. It's totally fine to be drinking but make sure to know you're limit so that you don't become sloppy.

  • Never, I repeat NEVER go alone- Clubs and bars are full of strangers that probably mostly have bad intentions. When you mix this with alcohol you have a dangerous combination. The rule I have with my girls is that we come together, we leave together, no exceptions. Unless of course it's a boyfriend or someone you already have know. But leaving with a stranger sounds like something you'll hear on 60 Minutes the next night. 

  • You are not obligated to dance with anyone- The social etiquette at a club or bar is much different than at most any other social setting. It's ok to just approach a girl with no conversation or even interest shown from her. This being said it's totally ok to just deny a guy with no explanation. So don't feel bad about hurting their feelings.

  • Boys will go as far as you let them- This not only applies to the club or bar but also to most any situation with men. You are in control of you're own body so never let someone force you to do anything you don't want them to do even if it's just them feeling you up. You can say no at anytime!!

While I feel like most of these things are common sense a lot of girls seem to ignore them and then complain about not getting respect from boys. So just some helpful hints for you all. But remember if you call yourself a classy lady you better act like one at all places public!!

As Always, Keep it Classy


Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Cover it Up to Class it Up

One of my biggest pet peeves is that women complain so much about men disrespecting them when they haven't done anything to earn their respect in the first place. First impressions are everything not only in professional situations but in life in general.

Fact: People will judge you by your appearance.

Because of that you hold the key to how they will make their decision and a lot of it will be based on how you are dressed. So here is my little twist on the golden rule:

Dress yourself like how you want others to treat you. 

I can tell you for a fact that people will respect you more and take you more seriously if you don't walk around with massive cleavage. As women we are already fighting an uphill battle to be respect by men and society. When we dress provocatively we may get attention but definitely not in the right way. Men stop listening to wait we have to say and start thinking with the head below the belt. There is definitely a time and a place for this but everyday life is not it unless you are a hooker.

This all may seem like common sense but I think it still needs to be said. Sometimes we say one thing but don't match our actions. So before you go to class, work, or just to hang out with friends think about what message you are sending with your outfit and is it the one you want to send??

As Always, Keep it Classy


Monday, January 23, 2012

It's Not Over

It's not over, it's not over. It's never over. Unless you let it take you. It's not over, it's not over. It's never over. Unless you let it break you. 
- Secondhand Serenade

I literally listened to this song on repeat for days underneath my fuzzy pink blanket when I broke up with my first boyfriend. It really makes me think about if it is ever really over. Do we ever completely fall out of love with someone? And if so does that mean that we never truly loved them in the first place?

Looking back on my past relationship I think about all the promises that were made. The promise to never leave, to never stop loving. At the time it felt so real and it was an honest promise. But in retrospect it makes me wonder if I'm still continuing to keep this promise or if I always knew all along that I really wouldn't keep it.

I'm at that point in singledom where I'm over the boy but not yet over the relationship. Spending three years of your life with someone is difficult to erase from your memory. Some mornings I wake up and I forget that we're not together anymore. Or I have a dream that we're together and he's changed.

It's funny how falling in love happens so quickly while falling back out of love takes so much time and effort. I guess that's because were love easy and are always fearful of letting go, even of bad things.

I remembered learning in school that you should never touch something hot with palm because your muscles reaction to heat is to close around it. Bad relationships are like that. Even though it hurts it's so hard to let go of them because it's your reaction to hold on.

The lesson to be learned here is that your burns from holding on may never truly heal. You will always be left with scars but we learn to get over them as much as we can and love someone else. The memories of past loves will always linger but we grow from them and become stronger in the future.

Just my daily rant for the day!! Made me feel better to get it out.

As Always, Stay Classy


The Importance of Telling the Truth

Confession, I absolutely HATE disappointing people or hurting their feelings. I can't stand telling someone no about anything. Sometimes in my pursuit to be nice I end up being way more cruel than I really actually intended to be.
A great example of this is a guy that has liked me for several months that I have been avoiding telling that he has no chance for a relationship. I have known that I would never date actually date this guy all along yet I wouldn't ever just straight up tell him this. 

I guess I just thought that if I kept ignoring his texts he would get the hint but after trying that for several weeks it clearly wasn't going to work. 

This back and forth has been going on for a few months and it was my New Year's resolution to finally tell this guy that he didn't actually have a chance. I thought it would be terrible but turns out he was totally ok with just being friends and appreciated my honesty in just telling him.

So ends up that I yet through a lot more trouble than was actually necessary. I guess the moral is that if you have something you need to say then just say it. Honesty is almost always the best policy!!

As Always, Keep it Classy


Sunday, January 22, 2012

Concert Etiquette

Last Friday I went and saw one of my favorite bands, Jack's Mannequin, live at the Beaumont Club in downtown Kansas City. Which was a fantastic venue by the way. We had to wait in line outside for a bit and it was FREEZING but it was definitely worth it. The Beaumont Club was so close and personal. Really no matter where you were in the venue you had a pretty clear view of the stage.

Andy playing piano

He's an incredible performer!!! 

Even though the concert was fantastic there were definitely some things I noticed that were extremely rude that you should never do at concerts!!

#1 Getting Mad at People Bumping You

Something that always frustrates me at concerts like these is that people glare at you it you bump into them or step on their toes. We are all in an extremely crowded area and chances are I bumped into you because someone else bumped into me first so chill out. 

#2 Stopping directly in front of people.

During the show a large man wandered through the crowd pushing everyone then stopped right in front of a 5' girl and just stood there. We had been standing waiting for the show for forever and this guy decides to just show up and but in front of us. So rude. But don't worry he didn't stop there he made it even worse...

#3 Groping Strangers

That large man that rudely stopped in front of us also proceeded to grab my sister's ass. But wait it gets worse. Not only did this man that was probably 20 years her senior grab my 18 year old sisters ass (he's lucky she's that old) his girlfriend was right there and thought the whole thing was just hilarious!! What girl thinks that is funny?? 

Regardless of how big or dense of a crowd you are in you should never intentionally grope someone people, it's just not polite. 

#4 Being indecisive about where you are going

While one of the most popular songs was being performed an attractive dude came through the crowd and just stopped in front of us and then kept circling through our area, ruining the moment we were all having. In fact I think he thought it was funny. A girl next to me told him to leave and everyone started shoving him away, he deserved it. 

#5 Don't go if you don't like it.

My top pet peeve about concerts is when people go but don't really want to be there. They just put in ear buds or glare at you for singing along. Why waste your money if you don't want to actually enjoy the show. 

Overall please just be respectful of people around you when at any event!!

As Always, Keep it Classy


Saturday, January 21, 2012

Clear Bra Straps: The Bane of Women Everywhere

Concerts bring out all types of interesting outfits and styles but one particular accessory stood out more than others. The clear bra strap. To begin with it's January so why on earth this girl was wearing a tank top I do not know. And secondly they are alternatives to the clear bra strap.

(We still see them honey)

What makes this style so darn trashy is the fact that it tries to hide the fact that you have on bra straps but the problem is that WE CAN ALL SEE IT!

You're not fooling anyone by trying to "hide" your straps. Honestly just wearing a normally strapped bra would probably look less trashy then that. 

To make matters even worse. Some clear straps actually have designs on them! Doesn't that kind of defeat the entire purpose of clear straps? Let me tell you though, it's not cute. 

For girls that struggle with how to get around wearing the clear bra straps I offer a guide of helpful suggestions. 

#1 The Racerback Bra

#2 The Strapless Bra

#3 Convertiable Bra- For the practical girl. 
Victoria's Secret has a miracle 7 way bra!!

#4 The paper clip trick

If you do not have any of these types of bra's and are in a pinch I have used the paper clip trick. Loosen your straps on a normal bra and when you put it on have a friend pin the straps together with a paper clip. It will create an instant racerback bra!

Hopefully this can help in the crusade against trashy outfits on girls everywhere.

As Always, Stay Classy


Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Tag! You're it!

I was tagged for this fun little game by Bless Your Heart.

The Rules
1. post the rules
2. post 11 fun facts about yourself.
3. answer the questions the tagger set for your in their post and then create 11 new questions to ask the people you'll tag
4. tag 11 people and link them on your post
5. let them know you've tagged them 
Since I'm answering two sets of questions, I think that's enough fun facts for one post!

I'm Tagging:

Questions for me:

What's your favorite nail polish color? 
Probably taupe I feel like it goes with everything! My favorite is Commander in Chic by Sally Hansen
Best book you've ever read?
This is so hard! Pride and Prejudice because I can never get sick of it.
If you could stop time for 1 hour, what would you do?
I would go around and see what my friends were doing. 
Silver or Gold?
You favorite thing in your closet?
My current favorite thing is my red blazer but I also love my blue combat boots!
What's your favorite song?
Trapeze Swinger by Iron & Wine (so beautiful you'll cry)
Last concert you went to?
Death Cab for Cutie (it was awesome!!)
Do you have a case on your phone? If so, what does it look like?
Just a black otter box
Favorite make-up item?
Sephora dark red lip gloss, always makes me feel hott!
Is there a show you stop everything to watch?
Pretty Little Liars!
If you could insert yourself into any movie, which would it be?
Pride and Prejudice I would take Keira Knightley's place as Elizabeth Bennett!

Questions for you:

What is your least favorite color?
Cupcake or cake?
Who's your celebrity crush?
What did you want to be when you were a kid?
Facebook or Twitter?
If you had 24 hours to live who would you see first?
What's your favorite Thanksgiving food?
If you had one wish what would it be?
What is your favorite flower?
Pop, Soda, or Coke?
Flying or invisibility?


Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Giving Change A Chance

While I desperately wish that I was an exciting and adventurous girl that runs off to climb a mountain or flies to New York to meet a stranger on a whim I sadly am not. Occasionally I will do something spontaneous but mostly I like things to stay just the way the are.

I HATE change. I hate having to start every school year new with new classes, teachers, friends. I would cry almost every semester for the first week because I hated that awkward getting back into the rhythm of things period.

So naturally when preparing to come back to school for winter break after not seeing anyone for a month and knowing that lots of things have changed I was scared to death. I loved last semester. I liked my classes. I liked that we had our set time we ate lunch everyday and every Sunday night was movie night. Coming back was going to feel like starting all over again.

Now here's the wild part. I came back to campus and it was amazing there was nothing to be afraid of. Sure some friends were gone but there were so many still here that were over joyed to see me. Even though time has passed it was like nothing had changed, probably because in reality nothing had.

In my very first class instead of the usual awkwardly trying to find somewhere to sit because you don't know anyone and you just feel so uncomfortable I walked in to see that I knew nearly every person in the class. Not only that but my best friend has all of the same classes I do.

This was radically different for me then the scene last year when I was miserable most of the semester because I had no friends in my classes and no one to sit with in the cafeteria. I thought that changing from that was to scary.

Thank god I took a chance and transferred to the school I'm at now because I couldn't be anymore happy. I am truly where I belong and I am so incredibly lucky to be here.

So the moral to this little personal rant (sorry about that) is that sometimes we have to take a chance and make a change to get what we really want and find what will make us happy.

I know that change is scary but what's even scarier is that you may be missing out on so many opportunities to be happier because you're frightened! So the next time you're on the brink of making a big decision to change something GO FOR IT!!!

As Alway, Stay Classy


Saturday, January 14, 2012

I pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Gosling

It's no secret that I, like millions of other women around the country, am absolutely obsessed with Ryan Gosling. My infatuation would go into stalker mode if I had the free time and he used his twitter. I will mention though that I do tweet @ him frequently in the hope that one day when he does check his twitter he will see that I'm his one true love. Not counting on it though.

Yum: Source

But what is about him that has got us all so obsessed?? In all honesty if I just saw him on the street and he wasn't a famous actor I can't say that I would really notice him. He's not even always attractive in all his roles like for instance in his movie Blue Valentine he doesn't look to hot. He plays a middle aged washout that's balding and failing at his marriage.

Still love him: Source

I think our crazy obsession with Ryan can be narrowed down to one simple fact. He was and always will be Noah. No woman can deny the sexiness of a man that just wants you and that will do anything to be with you. 

What's interesting is that this movie was not the first love story. It wasn't the first time we saw a movie where a man fought to be with the women he loved. Truly very little about this story was original in the sense that it hadn't been done before. 

Yet despite all that The Notebook struck a chord with us and reserved Ryan Gosling's spot as the sexiest man alive in my book for eternity. 

I guess what made The Notebook so special to us was that Ryan Gosling's role of Noah made us BELIEVE in real love. He convinced us that we deserve a man that will write us a letter everyday and that will build us a house! He was realistic that love is never perfect and is going to be difficult. 

"So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, for ever, you and me, every day."

There is really nothing else I can say. Noah's quote says it all. Hopefully this helps shed some light on why women are sooooo obsessed with Ryan Gosling!!

As Always, Stay Classy


PS. Comment on what your favorite Ryan movie is!! I want to know!

Friday, January 13, 2012

A Generation Without Love

We live in a generation of not being in love and not being together. 

I think that our generation is underestimated. They make us out to be that  all we care about is sex and emotion free hook-ups. I will admit we put up quite a good front. Our music, our shows, our styles, our behaviors all make us seem as though we have risen above the need for feelings.

I think that the love, the feeling, the emotions are all still there they are just more easily disguised than before. Or maybe it's the fact that nothing is disguised anymore. Sexuality is a common theme in nearly everything for our generation but just because we own up to our human desires doesn't mean we've lost the most basic of ones. 

We are the generation that can disconnect ourselves from our emotions. We can have sex without a second thought about the consequences but bury the emotions deep inside.

Who can blame us for making our skin thick though? We continually watch relationships crumble, with divorce rates through the roof many of us have had front row seats. If love doesn't last then why would we ever want to believe in it or share it with someone else. 

People that have been hurt before tend to keep their guard up. That's exactly what our generation does. We keep our guard up about love because we know how bad it can hurt and how often it does. We live in fear of actually believing in something only to watch it fall apart. 

In the end it's not the love that is gone for us. It is the trust in that love that has really disappeared. We can't believe in what we feel because what we feel is fleeting and only lasts a moment. 

This brings to mind a line from How I Met Your Mother, Ted says, "The beauty in the moment is that it is fleeting."

I guess the lesson learned here is that we are a generation of the vulnerable people of scared to admit we are in love  because we are scared it won't last. But when we don't allow ourselves to be in love we miss out on so much more than we ever know. So my call to you is to turn us from a generation of "not being in love and not being together" to being a generation that loves without regret and finds a way to make it last. 

As Always, Stay Classy


Saturday, January 7, 2012

Say the Word: Abusive Relationships

Relationships are messing and difficult because there are no standards for what is right and what is wrong.  When does it stop being love and become control? This is a question I repeatedly asked myself for the duration of my three year relationship. Let me tell you. If you question that you may be in an unhealthy relationship then you are.

You should NEVER have to question real love.

I count myself lucky in that I was not in a physically abusive relationship but the fact that it wasn't made it difficult to see how wrong it really was. "He didn't hit me. That means he's not abusing me. Right?" Completely and utterly wrong. Sometimes we forget to mention that abuse can also be emotional.

If someone makes you feel bad about yourself or feel like you need to stay with them because you are lucky that they are even with a person like you. Then you need to run away, fast.

Looking back I ask myself why the hell did I stay so long! There were so many classic signs of abuse: putting you down, separating you from your family and friends, controlling every single minor detail of your life down to how you spend your money and where you go. I knew in my heart that this was wrong, so very very wrong.

Here's what I think the problem was. Everyone say what was going on: my friends, my family, my teachers, hell even his family! And while they all were sympathetic to me not one person ever said the word. No one said you are being abused.

You are in an ABUSIVE relationship. 

I think just anyone saying that out loud would have changed so much. They said it after the fact but no one wanted to "hurt my feelings." But screw my feelings at that point they were already being hurt, ran over with a semi truck.

So I beg you if you see someone in a relationship that you know is wrong please say something. Please say the word, abusive. They may not want to hear it. They may get angry at you. They'll probably deny it but you will plant the seed and justify what they are thinking.

If you think you maybe in an abusive relationship please run away as fast as you can. I'd love to help you get through it because I've been there. Just email me at classyinkc@yahoo.com.

Sorry for getting on my soap box but it's something that needed to be said and I hope maybe this can help someone out there.

As Always, Keep it Classy


Friday, January 6, 2012

Where are you soulmate??

This was a post I wrote back when I was a freshman in high school. Man, did I have deep thoughts on life at 15. Sadly though not much has really changed! 

There are over 7 billion people in the world as of the last census.

         Out of those 7 billion people how are we expected to find that one individual that completes us?                                 And on top of that at the right timeSometimes it feels like we all just settle because we're sick of searching. Not that the person we settled for is bad its just not everything it could be.

But how absurd is this whole true love thing! I when what if my soul mate is like in some obscure African tribe that has never heard of the United States? Then that just means I'm screwed! I worry that I'm either being to picky and I need to just settle with what I have or that I'm not being picky enough and I'm going to miss the love of my life.                           

Its ridiculously challenging.

I believe he's out there. Somewhere. I just don't know if I'll ever find him and that uncertainty is incredibly unsettling.

Sigh.... life.

Hope you enjoyed this little insight into my head!

As Always, Keep it Classy


He Loves Me, He loves Me Not.

We've all been there. Trying to figure out if a guy likes you or not. Desperately checking your Facebook messages to see if he possibly sent you a message asking for your number. Well ok I'll admit if he doesn't know you exist yet he probably doesn't like you. But I put this question up to my guy friends and here are the dirty dets on how to tell if he's interested. 

Despite the common misconception that boys only talk about sports and sex they do sometimes talk about their feelings. Probably not to the extent that girls do but they may drop a "dude I'm into this girl" during their guy talk. This means that not only can you interrogate his friends (probably shouldn't actually do that) but also that whatever things other guys are saying will also be heard by them.

As it was put by my boy bestie, "We know about your past and what you did."So if you are wanting a guy to like you but you're hooking up with someone else they will know about it!

But here are some classic signs that girls misinterpret:

He looked at me- Just because I guys smiles at you or glances your way does not mean he is smitten with you. He could simply be trying to be polite or be noticing that you a raccoon eye going on. So don't read into it to much!

He texts you- This is a tricky one because you don't know what is normal for them. What's important to look for is when he texts you, how often. Do you notice him texting all the time when you're around him? Then he's probably just bored and wants to chat with you or is a player looking to get some. 

He messaged you on Facebook- This is where we start going into booty call land. Sure it's great that he messages you frequently but has he ever wrote on your wall or down any publicly viewable?? If not he's trying to keep his options open and doesn't want other girls to see. If he's messaging you, just how many other girls is he talking to??

These are mistakes that I myself and I'm sure many other girls and probably guys have made. We can't let our fantasy that they like us skew the reality that they may not. That's when we get our feelings hurt. If it seems like he's not that into you stop wasting your time and be with someone that is dying to be with you. 

As Always, Keep it Classy


Wednesday, January 4, 2012

What Men Want

So since I did a post on what girls want my guy friends thought that their opinions needed to be heard too! And believe me did they have some opinions. Get excited because this is actually going to be part of a three part series!! Try to contain your joy and lets get started.

What I’ve discovered is that guys basically want what girls want someone that’s honest and straightforward with them as they described it a “straight shooting woman that tells it like it is.” Not surprising that this what EVERYONE wants so enough with silly games we all need to just say what we mean and life will become considerably easier.

While every guys perfect girl is different there were a few key things that I noticed from them and from other guys that they look for in a girl. 

  • Having a Brain- Shocker, boys like girls that have the ability to have a conversation. In fact they find playing dumb to be just dumb and unattractive. Guys want a girl they can talk with and relate too. You don't have to be interested in the same stuff just able to hold your own in a conversation. 
  • Disagree- Agreeing with them about everything they say is "one of the most annoying things ever." This kind of goes along with having a brain they want a girl that is her own person and doesn't act like a bobble head going uh hu repeat.
  • Laugh- I think a nearly everyone wants someone with a sense of humor and that can take a joke. While being goofy is fun be careful not to overdo it. Don't be a) joking 24/7 and never be able to be serious or b) laughing like a hyena, not attractive.
  • Be Classy- While having your tah tah's hanging out may get you a lot of male attention it's not the kind of attention that will get them to take you seriously. Sure they like seeing the goods but why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? So ladies if you are trying to land a guy give off the right impression and look classy.
I feel like these are all pretty reasonable requests that us ladies can attempt to fulfill. Some other things that were mentioned were that they like girls that are good kissers (no surprise there), have nice hair, and that have accents. 

Overall though what guys and girls for that matter want most for the person they are with the be themselves. There is nothing hotter than a genuine personality. If they don't like who you are then they definitely aren't the person for you. 

Tomorrow look for how to get a guys attention, as told by men!!

As Always, Stay Classy


P.S. If you have differing opinions tell me! classyinkc@yahoo.com or on twitter @Classy_In_KC