Friday, February 10, 2012

The Scary L Word: Love

As a single woman I tend to gravity towards other single women in my real life, twitter, and blogging. One thing that all of us have in common is that we are obsessed with our singlehood. It is probably one of the biggest things we talk about. How we wish that perfect guy would show up. How we don't need a man and we're happy to be single. How we're lonely.



The thing is that I wonder what many of us would do in the situation if we actually found this elusive "perfect guy." Would we know what to do or would we be to scared??

While love sounds great on paper it is pretty frightening in real life. With love comes the possibility of rejection, heartbreak, and tears. But also the possibility of real happiness, fulfillment, and the enjoyment of companionship.

All of this leads me to wonder if in reality we are scared of love!

There are so many opportunities that present themselves that we choose to ignore for one reason or another but what we have to ask ourselves is, is that the real reason you won't commit or is it because we are frightened of losing ourselves or getting hurt?

It is ok to be scared of falling in love but fear shouldn't stop us from pursuing it. So I challenge you the next time you turn down a guy that seemed like he could fit well with you think about the real reasons you are doing it. You might be surprised!!



As Always, Stay Classy
XOXO


Hayley

13 comments:

  1. You continue to amaze me with your insight- today I am able to offer a little something maybe- I was like you before, scared of love and rejection,etc..and yes love can be scary but when you meet that 'elusive perfect guy' (they DO exist f.y.i) you won't even have fear cross your mind..something to consider :)

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    1. Liz,
      I think that is a beautiful message and something to definitely consider!! I never thought of it that way.
      Thank you, as always for your wonderful comments. They truly make my day.

      Hayley

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    2. Aw :)
      I just came back to your blog to tell you that I am going to see The Vow! You posted about it earlier this week so when we decided to go I wanted to tell you I was going!! Ill let you know how it is, but i'm sure it will be amazing!

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    3. That makes me feel so good that you thought of me!! I can't wait to hear your review!

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  2. I love this. Before M, I only dated one other guy seriously. The rest I refused to be serious with and do anything more than "casually" hang out. I was terrible and hurt a lot of really nice/amazing guys. I was even skeptical of M, until I realized that I'm not getting any younger and he is really amazing why not go for it and see what happens. Best decision I ever made. I hope you have fun weekend plans.

    xx
    Tab
    my-cliffnotes.blogspot.com

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    1. I love the "I'm not getting any younger" argument. I'm so glad you took the chance with him though, it just proves there was a reason why you held back on all the other guys!

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  3. Hmm, that's actually a pretty good point, I think. :S

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    1. And also a slightly scary one!! In my opinion.

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  4. Your new blog layout/overall design is looking great!

    Have A great weekend from,
    classicglamblog.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much Halle! Your comments always make my day!

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    2. :D thanks! Haha I agree with your comment on NARS!

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  5. Great message-yay for single girls!

    Glad I introduced you to the Jack Wills brand. Have a lovely rest of the weekend. XO

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