There's a very pleasant boy in one of my classes that looks about my age. We got out of class early so my day was going great. As I was chatting with this boy on my way out of the building he said something about his wife.... Yes I heard him correctly, wife.
Now I know what you're thinking. You think that I must have had a major crush on this boy and finding out he's flipping married ruined it for me. But that wasn't even it. He's nice but I don't particularly want to date him. It's just that he's exactly my age and he's MARRIED!!
I'm no where near marriage, hell I don't even have a boyfriend to consider being married too! The best I got at this point is my one of my best friends that says we'll get married if we're both single at 29. He's adorable and awesome by the way but really 9 years is a long time.
So after this all went down I sort of panicked. I flipped out to my friends (one of which got married at 17... oops) about how dumb that was. Why would you want to be married right now, we're kids for heavens sake. We don't even have real jobs or houses or pay our own car insurance how could we be married.
After I was told to take deep breathes and calm the heck down by my friends I was ok.
I guess it's just scary because just over 6 months ago I had my future completely planned out. I knew exactly who I was going to marry and when and the everything else about it. Now I'm going out into the world without any sort of plan. My greatest fear is that I won't find someone that I could realistically want to be with forever and ever. It's a pretty scary thought.
But I just have to take a step back and remember I'm only 20 years old for heavens sake! And what works for others (getting married young) may not be right for me. That's ok!
Someday I will look back on this with my charming and handsome husband and laugh at how silly I was. But until then I'll just take deep breathes and blog about it to you all. :)
As Always, Stay Classy
XOXO
Hayley
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ReplyDeleteI got married at 21, and I didn't feel young then (granted it was just 2.5 years ago), but looking back I'm like dang I was young! haha Who knows, maybe you'll find the love of your life next week! haha jk ;)
Maybe I will and then I'll completely change my perspective! I guess right now I can't imagine loving someone that way!
DeleteHaha! I definitely felt/feel this way a lot. I mean, I know I got married at 21 & pregnant at 22, so who am I to talk, but sometimes I look around me and wonder what all the madness/rush is about.
ReplyDeleteI guess to each his own! It's not my place to judge any of you.
Deleteloving the picture, gal!
ReplyDelete>yes, make sure to let me know how it works out for you! I wore it today and my lashes felt actually much softer and natural :)
have a great weekend, from Classic+Glam
I totally agree. I'll be 25 this year and I'm still not married either. :)
ReplyDeleteLOL, now I think there's totally a need for a Keep Calm You're Just Single poster. :P
I made one just for you!! And that definitely makes me feel better.
DeleteLove the honest of this post! It's so relate-able! Even though I'm in a serious, committed relationship, I am still not anywhere NEAR being ready to be married. :) Great post, Hayley
ReplyDeleteThat's really cool. I think if you love someone what's the hurry? I love that you and M are just enjoying being together.
DeleteFor the record I am now following you on twitter ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm @candycakesmama so follow me too.
AND....I got married at 18. It lasted 10 years. I too thought I had my life planned out, believe me. But life has it's own plans. So try to relax. Who knows, you may fall so madly in love with someone that you get married by the end of the year. Or it may take another 10 years until you are ready. But you have to be open to anything and ALWAYS, enjoy the ride ;)
Yay! I'll definitely follow you! And wow that's crazy that you got married that young! I think you are totally right that you just have to be open to possibilities, I'm trying.
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