Monday, March 26, 2012

Welcome to the Fabulous Friend Zone

So we all know what this is going to be about; the dark abyss that is the friend zone. Once one is thrown in they rarely are ever able to come back out. We've all probably been put in the friend zone at some point and we've all probably put people in the friend zone. I just thought I would share a couple of my theories with you all.

Theory #1 It is nearly impossible to come out of the friend zone.

So we all have those friends that we just love to death that may be of the opposite sex. Sometimes those friends start to like you as more than friends. Lord knows that I have tried to make this work. I have friends that I love to be with and do things with but I just don't think it can work if there is no sexual attraction.

You just can't force it. I tried my best with some guy friends and it just didn't work because you can't and it will just end up causing you both a lot of trouble.

Theory #2 Romance movies make us feel bad when they shouldn't.

I feel like in every romantic movie there is a dorky best friend that is desperately in love with the beautiful leading girl. In the end she realizes her best friend was the perfect guy all along. This is so misleading because most of the time our best friend are really just that our friends. 

We don't have to feel bad that we aren't attracted to them! It took me a while to figure that one out. I always felt terrible that my guy friends were great people but "not good enough" for me. 

Theory #3 There is a short window for romantic possibilities.

This is something that makes dating difficult but I think is really true. There is a window of time that someone you meet can be a romantic possibility. But once you get to know them to well it crosses into the friend zone and it probably can't come back out.

This is kid of a catch-22 because for me at least I like to know people well before I date them. But then you run the risk of becoming to close with them that you can't see them as a romantic possibility.

I guess in the end though if it's the right person you will know it inside and you won't have to worry about all this friend zone jazz. But for those that have been put into the "friend zone" just know that it's probably not anything wrong with you!

What are your guys thoughts on the "friend zone"?


  1. At one time or another, I was interested in almost all of my best guy friends. They all put me in the friend zone. One of them was interested in me, but I just couldn't see it working out. Trust me; I tried my damnedest.

    I just think it's funny how guys are so quick to accuse girls of putting them in the friend zone when they are equally guilty of doing it to us.

  2. I feel like typically when a guy and a girl are friends, one person always wants more at one point of the relationship. It's so hard to come out of that friend zone from both perspectives. Some of my guy friends that have had tried to make moves weirded me out but then when I started developing feelings for a guy friend, he didn't want to take it to that level. It's a sticky relationship. The show friend zone on mtv gives me severe anxiety hahaha.