No more single girl problems!!

You all have stood by me through all single girl issues since the beginning. Reading previous posts I can actually see the journey that I have made getting over my ex and learning to love just getting to be me. I think I was finally at a point where I was happy with myself and that I didn't need a new relationship to make me feel complete.

Well they say that when you stop looking that's right when a relationship falls into your lap. Ok, that's not exactly the saying but I feel like it's accurate to this situation.

I by no means have any problems with being single, but there is a certain incompleteness to it. That you don't have someone to cry to when your day has been bad or someone that will listen to you vent or get excited about something dumb with you. I have some incredible best friends that have done a hell of a job filling that role this past year but it's just not quite the same.

But anyway this brings me to say that Mr. Perfect is now all mine! Not completely official because he says he'll only ask me in person when he gets back but we're what my mother would call "exclusive." Honestly even if we weren't there is no one else I would even want to look at twice now that I've found him.

This is the text that he sent me after we got done Skyping for several hours (and driving my sister nuts because she said I was laughing to loud... oops :)). It pretty much sums up exactly why he is amazing and it completely cry worth. What he sent is the green.

And before you think oh is he ok with her posting that on her blog for the whole world to see, he understands my addiction to social media and over sharing all the cute things he says and does. Seriously he is perfect.

So I apologize in advance for all the gushing over how fantastic he is I will be doing from now on but I mean can you really blame me? I can't help but want the world to know I found this guy and he actually wants to be with ME!

New House: Leaving the Nest

I have officially joined the ranks of adulthood! My sister and I have left the nest, much to my parent’s surprise. We had insisted that we were going to move out but they thought that we wouldn’t ever actually do it or find somewhere that would let us have her dog, Phoebe.

Well on my second day home from school we found a place! Which was lucky because I hadn’t even unpacked my stuff yet. It’s an adorable little 2-bedroom one-bath house with a fenced in yard. Conveniently located only 2 blocks from my parent’s home.

At first they were a little shocked that we had actually gone out and done it without their help. We worked out a deal with our landlord then called and told my parents about it.

It’s fun to actually start to be a grown-up! And by fun I mean I have to run all over town trying to find the right offices so we don't get our electricity or water turned off. But we have really decided that we want to do it on our own without our parents holding our hands. (Though my Dad can still hold my hand occasionally if he would like to). 

So far we haven't had any major problems with anything we can't fix. We haven't starved to death which is amazing because the first four days the only thing in the fridge was my sister's boyfriends case of beer, Dr. Pepper and an old pizza.

We have also been so lucky as to have a landlord that pretty much gives us free reign. She allowed us to repaint as long as it was a neutral color and we can even have our dog at the house. It's a pretty sweet deal. 

How old were you all when you left the nest and was it hard?

Mr. Perfect has made an appearance!

I haven’t been able to post because guess what!! I got my own house with my baby sister! We still haven’t gotten Wi-Fi yet so I have to post this from my parent’s house. It should be up and running soon so I can continue to give you all the details! I will post about that tomorrow with picture but I have an even better topic today.

You all are very much aware of my single status. I post about it often enough! It’s been about 9 months or so since I’ve had a boyfriend. Only the way there have been a plethora of interested guys and guys I was interested in.

There were jerks, liars, duds, and just plain odd guys along the way. But none of them really seemed like anyone to get to worked up over in the end. There was never one that was like I real say the potential to have a real relationship with.

Until now!

If you follow my twitter you may have noticed that practically all I have been tweeting about recently is this wonderful boy I have recently met. And let me tell you he is absolutely perfect I mean I literally could not have dreamed up a better guy than this.

He did debate (like me), he’s a swimmer, in the air force, extremely intelligent, funny, sweet, and actually within a few hours of me (or will be soon). But the best part is he’s Catholic too! An actual practicing one not a I-Was-Baptisted-But-I-Haven’t-Stepped-Foot-In-A-Church-Since-Was-5-Catholic.

The exact moment I realized he was something special was when he practically recited parts of the Geneva Convention to me during a discussion about the treatment of terrorists. We’re just a tad nerdy, but seriously how many other guys would even want to talk about that much less know so much about it!

He said it was when I said I was catholic and that I liked guns. I guess that’s the country girl in me overcoming my liberal side. Currently he is on the West coast so unfortunately we won’t be able to see each other till sometime in June when he comes back into the area.

Until, then thank goodness for cell phones and skype!!

So you all should probably get prepared for an onslaught of mushy posts all about him but I can’t say that I’m sorry about it!

The Perfect Man

I was recently asked what my ideal man was. Obviously it would be Ryan Gosling (duh) but in reality I don't really have much of an idea. I know I want him to be smart and funny but that's about as far as my list goes. Going out into the dating world with no idea what you are looking for is like going shopping without any idea of what you are looking for. Most of the time you make purchases you never would have wanted to if you had planned out your shopping trip with what you actually needed or wanted.

Right now as far as guys go I keep buying that spurge item that you don't really want or need but seemed cool at the time but you end up throwing away soon. If you don't know what you want in a man how do you  find one that's a good  fit for you. I guess their is luck or chance but I've never been one to rely on the odds.

Because of this revelation I've decided to describe (using celebs and fictional characters of course) my perfect man so that maybe I'll have a clearer idea of what is important to me and what I'm looking for.

First of all my perfect man would look like Ryan Gosling ideally but for myself physical attributes often don't have much of a bearing. I have dated/liked guys of different races, heights, hair colors, eye colors, whatever. The only consistent thing for me is that I generally like guys that are thinner and have good hair but the rest is free game.

As far as personality goes I need a guy that is funny. He has to make me laugh on a daily basis, not a difficult thing to do. I'm imagining my perfect man's humor to be like Johnny Depp's, a little quirky and off color. Not the obvious knee slapping humor like Jim Carey.

He has to be kind and loving imagine Noah from The Notebook (Ryan is going to be referenced a lot I think!). He loved Allie all the way till the end and was so patient and gentle with her.

He has to be loyal like Peeta was to Katniss. No matter how much she hurt him Peeta was always looking out for Katniss's best interest. He would do anything for her. If Peeta was a real person he would definitely be my ideal man. I know he's not as firery as Gale but I think he has the long lasting qualities.

He has to be intelligent and driven, yet have a regard for morals at the same time. This maybe an obscure reference so I apologize but I want a guy like Alan Shore in Boston Legal. He was a witty, charming and extremely intelligent lawyer. But when it came down to it he always stood by his moral code and I respect that a lot.

He has to have a goofy, childish side. I want a guy that isn't afraid to be immature. Like he does magic tricks or juggles or likes to do 1,000 piece puzzles with his little brother. This doesn't really match any celebrity I can think of but it's just somethings that have really made me like some other guys.

The last thing is optional but would be a definite plus. I want a guy that is artistic whether that be he is a writer or an artist or a musician their is just something about that creative flare that draws you in.

So what makes up your ideal man or do you already have your ideal man? Lucky for you that already do!

I don't want to be Carrie Bradshaw anymore.

I previously posted about how I felt like myself and many other female bloggers were all kind of wanna-be Carrie Bradshaws, you can read about it here. But I've recently decided that I don't want to be like Carrie at all! I'm much more of a Charlotte and I like it.

First, of all Charlotte basically has my dream job. She manages a super posh art gallery in New York (or she did at one point). That would be so incredibly amazing and is really similar to what I would actually like to do with my career.

But second of all I feel like I'm a lot like Charlotte in the love department. It was actually my sister that pointed this out to me. She said, "Hayley I think you are like Charlotte. You think that after everything failed with your Trey that you were going to be single forever but don't worry you're going to find your Harry."

I love my sister and she is so right. That is exactly my life and how I am. Much like Charlotte I like to have a plan and currently I don't have a life plan as far as relationship stuff goes because my romantic relationships with men are non-existent.

My ex, who was my version of Trey, seemingly perfect but really a horrible match, has left me in a dating rut where I feel like I won't find anyone that will go beyond his good qualities and eliminate his bad.

In the end Harry was not at all what Charlotte was looking for or expected but he turned out to be absolutely perfect for her. I think if I stop looking and worrying about it a great guy will find me. Hopefully :)

One more reason I'd rather be Charlotte. Carrie's sense of style is sometimes MAJORLY off but Charlotte is always dressed impeccably. That is all.

Monday Man-Off: Pirates of the Caribbean

Hello everyone, guess what?! I'm back!!! For good! I promise to make a new commitment to my blog and post regularly from now on. Sometimes life just gets in the way but I'm glad you guys understand! 


I'm bringing back the Monday Man-Off for you all because first of all who doesn't want to look at and talk about hott guys. Speaking for myself I can say that the number of pins on my Man Oh Man board on pinterest is crazy, mostly Josh Hutcherson and Ryan Gosling (shocking I know!). But this week I decided to highlight a debate I still have yet to solve.

Pirates of the Caribbean is one of my favorite movies ever. It has some of my favorite actors and it's just an overall sweet movie. In fact I themed my Sweet Sixteen pirate because of the movie. It was pretty amazing by the way.

Our first contender is the gorgeous Orlando Bloom. My sister and I got so obsessed with him for a while. He was incredible in Pirates and in Lord of the Rings where I first fell in love with him. (Just realized he has already been in my Monday Man-Off, apparently I really do like him a lot!!).

Our second contender is dark and mysterious Johnny Depp. This man is so quirky and sexy and just amazing. He always just does his own thing which I really respect. Also he pulls off the grungy, hott look so well.

I have to say that Johnny wins it for me. He just has that air of mystery to him that makes you want to know him and be around him. Don't get me wrong Orlando is gorgeous but Johnny has my heart for sure. 

What do you all think about these two dashing men?

Finals, finals, finals!!!

Hey all. Just wanted to let you guys know that I will probably be on a hiatus for the week due to finals and my million and one projects, papers, and tests I have to study and get done. For those of you that get to share in my joy of taking finals good luck! For the rest of you I am super jealous!!

But have a lovely week and I will be back soon!!


Love,
Hayley