I don't want to be Carrie Bradshaw anymore.

I previously posted about how I felt like myself and many other female bloggers were all kind of wanna-be Carrie Bradshaws, you can read about it here. But I've recently decided that I don't want to be like Carrie at all! I'm much more of a Charlotte and I like it.

First, of all Charlotte basically has my dream job. She manages a super posh art gallery in New York (or she did at one point). That would be so incredibly amazing and is really similar to what I would actually like to do with my career.

But second of all I feel like I'm a lot like Charlotte in the love department. It was actually my sister that pointed this out to me. She said, "Hayley I think you are like Charlotte. You think that after everything failed with your Trey that you were going to be single forever but don't worry you're going to find your Harry."

I love my sister and she is so right. That is exactly my life and how I am. Much like Charlotte I like to have a plan and currently I don't have a life plan as far as relationship stuff goes because my romantic relationships with men are non-existent.

My ex, who was my version of Trey, seemingly perfect but really a horrible match, has left me in a dating rut where I feel like I won't find anyone that will go beyond his good qualities and eliminate his bad.

In the end Harry was not at all what Charlotte was looking for or expected but he turned out to be absolutely perfect for her. I think if I stop looking and worrying about it a great guy will find me. Hopefully :)

One more reason I'd rather be Charlotte. Carrie's sense of style is sometimes MAJORLY off but Charlotte is always dressed impeccably. That is all.

Carrie Bradshaw Wanna Be

Yesterday at work a few of my co-workers were joking about how girls want to be Carrie Bradshaw. Well they didn't specifically know her last name was Bradshaw but I got the gist. While listening to this conversation I had a revelation:

OH MY GOSH I AM ONE OF THOSE GIRLS!

Her Iconic Tutu Outfit

While my conscience intention was never to try and imitate Carrie I can't help but notice that I read my writing allowed in my head like she does when she rights. I also ask a ridiculous amount of rhetorical or unanswerable questions. But does Sex and the City give us unrealistic expectations? (See rhetorical question!!)

Most of us writers will not get a job writing a relationship column in New York that helps us afford to buy  these:

Jimmy Choo's

As awesome as that would be I'm probably going to have to stick to Jessica Simpson's line at Macy's as being the most "high end" heels I can afford. So I understand that Carrie's life of living in New York flitting from guy to guy and doing all sorts of awesome things with her girlfriends isn't going to happen.   Well you can probably still do awesome things with your girlfriends.

But like most TV shows Sex and the City gives us a completely unrealistic expectation of what real life is like. And they're not alone. Even our so called "reality TV" shows are scripted and don't at all portray reality (looking at you Kardashians).

So I ask, what is so bad about real life? Sure being able to afford designer shoes would be great, but why am I not supposed to be satisfied with ones from Target? I'll actually answer this one. There is nothing wrong with NOT being a celebrity and only wearing Jimmy Choo's.

While television is entertaining sometimes we need to step back and realize that it's entertainment not real life. We shouldn't compare ourselves or hold ourselves to the standards it sets.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is even if I can't be Carrie Bradshaw, I'm perfectly content just being Hayley.



As Always, Stay Classy
XOXO


Hayley