Catfish: Can you love a stranger?

Just another show in MTV's long list of forgettable reality series, Catfish has seemed to have struck a cord with us. Meeting someone online isn't all that hard in our digital age. But the idea of falling in love with them and talking to them for years without proof of who they are sounds a little far fetched.

For those of you that have better things to do than watch MTV and are unaware of what Catfish is, here is a brief summary. Basically it is a show based on connecting long term online lovers. The team comes in and films everything as they investigate their mystery lovers. Then they try to get ahold of them and have them meet in person. Sometimes it's girls pretending to be boys or vice versa, or sometimes they just don't hit it off like they thought they would, on rare occasion it actually works out.

So how can it be possible to be in love with someone you've never met? Or is it even possible? I would have to say that in my opinion I don't think you can really truly be "in love" with someone you haven't physically spent time with. You miss out on all the little unspoken things about them that create the bond of love.

But why then are so many people open to loving strangers they have never met and may never meet? I think it really speaks to the loneliness our generation feels. Are we really that desperate to find love that we are willing to create it with a stranger? Apparently so.

Someone you will never meet can never judge you for you flaws or imperfections. They will only love you for the parts of you that you let them see. It's so much safer than real life. You can place all your hopes and dreams into that person and be relatively confident you won't get hurt.

I'm sure the idea of meeting this person they have created this fantasy with is somewhat appealing. Why else would they go on the show. But often times it seems like there fantasy doesn't match up with reality.

I guess the moral of the story is that we can't let ourselves be so scared of the real world that we choose to live solely in online relationships. Sometimes reality hurts but that's just a chance you have to take to experience real life the way you should.




As Always, Stay Classy
XOXO

Hayley

How Far Would You Go?

How far would you go for what could potentially be love? As I talked about in my post The Boy She Meet Online, meeting people online isn't that taboo anymore. So does this mean that we have a greater chance of finding our soulmate than we ever did before?

When I was younger (And way to into deep thinking!) I used to worry that the love of my life could be across the world where I could never possibly find him. But now that has become much less of a problem because it doesn't matter if he's across the world, or the country because through the internet I can still find him.

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But how far would you go for this chance at love? Would you fly half way across the country to meet a stranger in the hopes that they could be your perfect match?

I mean I suppose you were answering that question yes when you began to talk to someone that you knew was far away. But what if it is simply the glamour of falling for a stranger that attracts you more than the actual compatibility.

I realize I've just asked a lot of questions and have given absolutely zero answers. But the thing is that I don't have any answers to give you just yet.

Maybe it's being scared of taking a chance or even of something actually working, of actually falling in love with someone that holds us back from doing crazy things. I constantly encourage you all to take chances and do things you never dreamed you would do, so many it's time I took that advice for myself and finally did something crazy.

This gives me a lot to think about... I apologize for the nonsensical rant but I appreciate any thoughts you may have on the matter!!


As Always, Stay Classy
XOXO

Hayley
 (using my real name now! Exciting!!)

The Boy She Met Online

Ok if you recognize the title The Boy She Met Online as being a lifetime movie that is about, wait for it.... about a girl who met a boy online, then you are amazing!! I am a huge lifetime movie fan mostly because they give titles that say directly what they are about. But this post is not to talk about how magical that movie was (which is was). This post is to talk about the frightening yet interesting world of online dating.

Sure you were...

I have to admit I absolutely love the couple on the eharmony commercials. They seem so happy and believable!! I realize that the couples probably are all actors that have never met that person before but let me just pretend that it's real.

I know that online dating used to be considered a shameful thing to do but with our increasingly technological world it's starting to make more sense.

This is hilarious!!

Heck, I am only 20 years old and have only been single for 5 months (Wow! Had no idea it was that long.) but online dating is starting to look kind of appealing. Not saying that I will do it but if I can find a guy as hot and sincere seeming as the ones on the commercials I'll give a shot.

So for those of us on the fence about online dating I have listed the five reasons to GO FOR IT and the five reasons to DON'T DO IT.

GO FOR IT


1. Easy way to meet lots of singles
2. Easily tell if they are gansta or not.
Ex: "Wat ^ gurl? U lokn fly." Reply:...... (don't reply to that!)
3. Find people with similar interests.
4. They are putting their profile online too so you won't seem that desperate!
5. Narrow done by qualities you want

DON'T DO IT


1. They may not actually be a single
2. They may not be an attractive, wealthy 26 year old man
3. They may not be a man at all....
4. People are different online than in person
5. OK they could be major creeps

So clearly a lot of people have had success with online dating and you may be one of those people!! Just decide what will fit your lifestyle best. And ALWAYS be safe when meeting strangers in real life. Always tell your friends/family where you are going. Meet in a public place. Never let them pick up. Set up a check in time with a friend to tell them everything is ok.

If you choose to venture into the world of online dating just be sure to stay act like a classy lady and not a crazy one like this girl.

Enjoy!!!