Jerks Will Be Jerks

The other day I posted about how pleasantly surprised I was when a boy actually treated me with respect and was considerate to me. You can read about it here. Of course all of you lovely readers had some comments to make about it and one really caught my attention and inspired this post:

Candy Cakes @ Single Girl Will Eat Free had this to say:

Yay! It's always nice to be pleasantly surprised. But it begs the question: What we were doing hanging out or "talking" to a guy that we are surprised knows how to behave like a gentleman in the first place? Lol. No judgement doll, I'm still guilty of it ALL the TIME.

That's a really fantastic question! Why are we even giving these guys the time of day?

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I think I found part of the answer while talking with one of my Twitter pen pals @TrophyTrainee (she's a great girl to follow!). She said that girls like guys that are jerks because we want to be the one that changes them. I guess it's just our nurturing nature. We want to be the person to change them and make them better.

Just like how our mom's always were able to "fix" everything we want to help fix them. The thing is though that people are who they are and that can't change, at least not by force.

A person will change in a relationship because they are growing with you not because you are trying to make them someone they are not. So maybe instead of looking for guys we can make perfect we should be dating the guys that ARE perfect for us. Or at least aren't jerks.

So the moral is what we all already knew. Jerks will always be jerks. Sometimes we just need a little reminder that it is not our job or responsibility to change them!

Welcome to the Fabulous Friend Zone

So we all know what this is going to be about; the dark abyss that is the friend zone. Once one is thrown in they rarely are ever able to come back out. We've all probably been put in the friend zone at some point and we've all probably put people in the friend zone. I just thought I would share a couple of my theories with you all.

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Theory #1 It is nearly impossible to come out of the friend zone.


So we all have those friends that we just love to death that may be of the opposite sex. Sometimes those friends start to like you as more than friends. Lord knows that I have tried to make this work. I have friends that I love to be with and do things with but I just don't think it can work if there is no sexual attraction.

You just can't force it. I tried my best with some guy friends and it just didn't work because you can't and it will just end up causing you both a lot of trouble.

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Theory #2 Romance movies make us feel bad when they shouldn't.

I feel like in every romantic movie there is a dorky best friend that is desperately in love with the beautiful leading girl. In the end she realizes her best friend was the perfect guy all along. This is so misleading because most of the time our best friend are really just that our friends. 

We don't have to feel bad that we aren't attracted to them! It took me a while to figure that one out. I always felt terrible that my guy friends were great people but "not good enough" for me. 

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Theory #3 There is a short window for romantic possibilities.


This is something that makes dating difficult but I think is really true. There is a window of time that someone you meet can be a romantic possibility. But once you get to know them to well it crosses into the friend zone and it probably can't come back out.

This is kid of a catch-22 because for me at least I like to know people well before I date them. But then you run the risk of becoming to close with them that you can't see them as a romantic possibility.

I guess in the end though if it's the right person you will know it inside and you won't have to worry about all this friend zone jazz. But for those that have been put into the "friend zone" just know that it's probably not anything wrong with you!

What are your guys thoughts on the "friend zone"?

Monday Man-Off: Hunger Games

Last weeks winner was Orlando Bloom in our Lord of the Rings Man-Off!

In honor of the Hunger Games opening I decided to do this weeks Man-Off between the leading men
Josh Hutcherson (Peeta) and Liam Hemsworth (Gale). I actually have yet to read the books so I don't know if knowing their characters would change my mind. But I definitely have some opinions based on their looks!!

So lets start with Gale the character played by Liam Hemsworth. I heard a rumor that he's engaged to his girlfriend Miley Cyrus which is sad for us single women but congratulations for them if it's true.

He is so gorgeous in that manly kind of way. But he still has a soft soulful look in his eyes like he wants to have a deep conversation about life with you. I mean maybe he's a dummy but I like to imagine he's thoughtful and deep.

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Then we have Peeta played by Josh Hutcherson. He obviously has a little more of a youthful look than Liam but that's probably just because he is younger. Josh looks like the type of guy you would meet in a coffee shop reading a romance novel. Then you would be so taken by his romantic side that you would completely forget the fact that he's not ultra manly like Liam but soft and sweet. 

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Ok so I don't know either of the characters so my decision is based purely off of their looks and my imagined personalities. I would definitely say that Gale is the hottest I mean look at his shoulders. He makes me just want to hug him for hours. 

But on the other hand I think I usually go with the Peeta type more. The guy that is subtly attractive but has an incredible personality and is super thoughtful. 

It's tough but since this Man-Off is really just about hotness and not real life compatibility I have to go with Gale (Liam Hemsworth) as my winner.

Who do you pick? Do the books/characters change you opinion of who's hotter?

Sunshine Award!

Sorry guys that it has taken me a million years to do this award!! I got busy and totally forgot all about it. Though I would like to thank Halle over at Classic+Glam for nominating me and Jessica at Frikken Duckie for nominating me also. It truly is an honor.

Sunshine Award rules:

       1. Include the award’s logo in a post or on your blog. 

2. Answer 10 questions about yourself.

3. Nominate 10-12 other fabulous bloggers.  

 4. Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs, letting them know they have been nominated. 

5. Share the love and link the person who nominated you.

10 Sunshine Award Questions:

Favorite Color? Light Orange

Favorite animal? Horse

Favorite number? 7

Favorite non-alcoholic drink? Cran-Grape juice (I got through a jug a week!)

Prefer Facebook or Twitter? TWITTER!!!

My passion? Writing and ending sex trafficking

Prefer getting or giving presents? Both

Favorite pattern? Damask

Favorite day of the week? Saturday

Favorite flower? Peonies

Here are the people I want to award it too!

 Liz @ Liz's Lovely Life

Carlie @ Life... full of Stories

Brittney @ Brittney's Orr-dinary Life

Amanda @ Simple Girl,Simple Pleasures

Fashion Meets Food

Kenna @ The Bluths

Kara Jean @ Not a Couples Blog

Melissa @ So about what I said... 

Kelly @ Classy in Carolina

Ashley @ Life as I know it

I would also suggest checking out all of these blogs because they are fabulous ladies that I try my best to read daily!!

You are... respecting me??

The funniest thing happened last night. A guy friend that had "booty called" me a couple weeks ago, with a 1 AM come hang out at our frat house (which I didn't), actually invited me over a couple days in advance and at a reasonable time.

He said to come over Thursday to watch some movies with him and some of his friends. Of course being the skeptic I am I assume this can only mean there are going to be some drunk guys hanging out that need a girl to feel less dorky. And surely "watching a movie" was code for something else because boys always have other motives.

Sing it sister!

To my pleasant surprise it wasn't like that at all. There was no heavy drinking involved. I came over at 9 PM, which is pretty early in college terms. We had a nice time watching a movie with him and his best friend and roommate.

He even said it was a "date night." His words not mine, but believe me I had to practically close my mouth from hanging open. His best friends girlfriend was supposed to come and it would be like a couples night. Which to my knowledge is the first time he'd ever referred to me in anyway as a date.

 It was a really lovely time overall. We had some good conversation and he was actually interested in what I had to say. Then I went home. No frat boy pressuring for anything more.  

But the sad part of all this is that I'm shocked. I'm shocked that he actually was interested in just talking and hanging out with me not getting anything else. It has become so uncommon anymore for girls to get respect from boys that we can't believe our eyes when it is happening.

Respect is something that should come as a given that we shouldn't have to demand or search for. Yet that's often not the case.

So thank you Frat Boy for respecting me and actually caring about ME. It made for a very lovely evening and taught me a good lesson that I shouldn't expect or take anything less than that kind of treatment.

My Future Husband (He just doesn't know it!)

Warning: Please realize before you read this that I am in fact a total creep. BUT that I won't actually go stalk this man. Most of my creeping is for my own entertainment and yours. Enjoy!


So in my TV Production class we were watching videos of examples of different types of reporting styles.  It was love at first sight. The reporter for ABC in Arizona is going to be my future husband. He is gorgeous and so funny.

My future hubby!

Since this guy is going to be my husband I needed to know a little about him. So obviously I googled him name and up popped his Facebook page! Which I then throughly creeped. I also followed him on twitter FYI.

This is what I discovered. He is a second degree black belt, scuba certified, enjoys deep sea fishing, hiking, and I'm sure all sorts of other adventures. He really does seem like a super cool perfect man. If only he knew that I existed.

But never fear I have a plan!! One of my friends happens to have friends at the college this guys brother goes too. I know this is a stretch but we think that we can go there, befriend his brother and hopefully meet my future hubby. Then when he meets me he will realize we are perfect together and propose immediately.

Well in my dreams. But hey what's the fun in being single without a little fantasy! Chances are I will probably get over this man soon and completely forget about my obsession but for now I'm going to just enjoy the euphoria of a crush.

My Quarter Life Crisis

I went through a minor (well still kind of going through) quarter life crisis because I'm a little young to be in my mind life just yet. It resulted in my best friend and I bursting into tears for absolutely no reason and then just laughing at how silly we both looked.

To understand why I'm having this meltdown I have to tell you a little about myself. I am one of the least spontaneous people you will ever meet. I mean deciding to get ice cream on a whim is probably about as crazy as I get.

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Today we had this guest speaker aptly named Othello who was incredible and has really made me think about my life and what I'm doing with it. He basically challenged me to rethink everything I am doing. I realized that I HATE the fact that I don't do things when I want to do them.

I have never just jumped in my car and driven some where unplanned. This lead to me temporarily wanting to runaway from school to the beach. I would have had it not been for the fact that I have so many incredible friends I can't leave behind.

I thought about this all day. Am I doing things because I want to do them or because I think it's what I'm supposed to do. Sometimes the burden of being responsibly and a good student becomes heavy! Can you blame me for wanting to not be a perfectionist sometimes?

But after talking with some wise friends I realized that the only way I can have the freedom to do whatever I want is if I work hard now. Someday when I have a career (aka more money than a college student) I'll be able to go on trips. Hopefully with someone special.

So right now having to endure school and internships (none of which are bad just a lot of work) but I can look forward to how much brighter of a future this will lead me too!!

I really hope I'm not the only one that has experienced this crisis before!