Keeping it Classy at the Club

While the title of this post may seem to be an oxymoron it in fact is possible to be classy at the club/bar. Many girls don't really make any sort of attempt to have any class at all which accounts for why we have such a negative perception. For those girls that really just want to go dance and have fun here are some tips to act and look classy at the club/bar.

Dane Cook's: I just wanna dance skit. Sooo true!!

• Dress how you would like to be treated- The problem with so many girls that go to the club is that they dress like hookers. If you want men to just treat you like a piece of meat or you're looking for a one night stand then by all means displaying all the goods is the way to go. But if that's not the impression you want to give off then don't dress like it is. Simple as that. 

• Sloppy drunk is never cute- After that 5th shot of tequila you may feel like you look like a million bucks but chances are you're not looking nearly as great as you think. You will either embarrass yourself or just attract the wrong type of guys. It's totally fine to be drinking but make sure to know you're limit so that you don't become sloppy.

• Never, I repeat NEVER go alone- Clubs and bars are full of strangers that probably mostly have bad intentions. When you mix this with alcohol you have a dangerous combination. The rule I have with my girls is that we come together, we leave together, no exceptions. Unless of course it's a boyfriend or someone you already have know. But leaving with a stranger sounds like something you'll hear on 60 Minutes the next night. 

• You are not obligated to dance with anyone- The social etiquette at a club or bar is much different than at most any other social setting. It's ok to just approach a girl with no conversation or even interest shown from her. This being said it's totally ok to just deny a guy with no explanation. So don't feel bad about hurting their feelings.

• Boys will go as far as you let them- This not only applies to the club or bar but also to most any situation with men. You are in control of you're own body so never let someone force you to do anything you don't want them to do even if it's just them feeling you up. You can say no at anytime!!

While I feel like most of these things are common sense a lot of girls seem to ignore them and then complain about not getting respect from boys. So just some helpful hints for you all. But remember if you call yourself a classy lady you better act like one at all places public!!

As Always, Keep it Classy

XOXO

Classy

Cover it Up to Class it Up

One of my biggest pet peeves is that women complain so much about men disrespecting them when they haven't done anything to earn their respect in the first place. First impressions are everything not only in professional situations but in life in general.

No ones taking her seriously!

Fact: People will judge you by your appearance.

Because of that you hold the key to how they will make their decision and a lot of it will be based on how you are dressed. So here is my little twist on the golden rule:

Dress yourself like how you want others to treat you. 


I can tell you for a fact that people will respect you more and take you more seriously if you don't walk around with massive cleavage. As women we are already fighting an uphill battle to be respect by men and society. When we dress provocatively we may get attention but definitely not in the right way. Men stop listening to wait we have to say and start thinking with the head below the belt. There is definitely a time and a place for this but everyday life is not it unless you are a hooker.

This all may seem like common sense but I think it still needs to be said. Sometimes we say one thing but don't match our actions. So before you go to class, work, or just to hang out with friends think about what message you are sending with your outfit and is it the one you want to send??


As Always, Keep it Classy
XOXO


Classy

Boyz to Men: College Life

 Making this transition from high school boys to college I've discovered that not much changes. Let me tell you a little ancedote to illustrate my point.

First day of school we have a guest speaker talking to us about how we are coming into the real world and growing up. At some point during this speech the phrase "our duty" came up and I'm sure you can guess what happens next. The word duty triggered a bout of giggles and repeating "he said doody!" from all of the young men around us.

See my point? While men may be growing older in years they are not growing in maturity. This lack of maturity also applies to college boys when it comes to dating situations. I'm not just meaning cheesy pick-up lines or dumb "how you doing??" I mean absolutely ridiculous things!

Here are some of the worst offenses I've seen so far:

Updating Facebook Status's About YOU:


I rejected a guy earlier in the year who then posted a status every time he saw me about how mean and rude I was. Seriously dude? TMI.

Drunkly Trying to Seduce You:


I was at the club with my girls and I happened to be the DD for the night. I was though holding my friends cup which lead a guy to believe I must have been intoxicated enough to want to hook up with him. After a few dances he started to KISS MY NECK!! Yes this dude did that! EWW!!
(Boys never do this to a girl you don't know, gross) Needless to say I got out of their quick!

Ditching You to Hook-up with Other Girls:


I've always been on the impression that a boy saying he would like to hang out with you mean that they are at least vaguely interested in you. Well like most men they're only interested in what they think they can get. I got ditched for a movie night and ice cream. So I got the hint, he wasn't interested. After I make a new girl friend we start talking about him and turns out he was hooking up with her when he ditched me!! Really classy...

I guess boys never really grow up but whats new!


XOXO,
Classy

Treat me like a class lady!

Ok ladies, we've all been there a first date with a guy that seems so great through text or online then he blows it!! We all know that all boys are immature and stupid but they aren't supposed to let that show until after at least the third date. Nobody is perfect but we don't have to put our faults and quirks out on display until after someone has gotten a chance to like you.

I like to think of myself as a pretty classy lady. I don't curse publicly, open my legs when wearing a dress with no underwear (open my legs when wearing a dress at all), or get sloppily drunk. Because of this I would like to be treated like the lady that I am.

This is what we're really thinking.

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I recently went on a date with guy I met at a party, ok I'll admit that was my first mistake. I agreed to go on a date with him a few days later. While eating this guy casually dropped numerous profanities into our conversation. Let me tell you that this was a MAJOR turn off. I understand that people cuss and that's ok but please don't do it on the first date.

Another guy I went on a date with seemed a little dorky which can be cute in some cases. Admitting that you still love Pokemon and having several Facebook pictures of Pokemon characters isn't cool. To put icing on that little cupcake he also can name all of the alien races in Star Wars. Yeah...

Some of these things are OK if the girl you are going on a date with has made it obvious that those things are cool with them. Such as they admit to loving Pokemon or also curse a lot. But it's pretty safe to say that in most situations you shouldn't let those "quirks" show till after you've gotten better acquainted.

So please guys always assume that you are on a date with a classy girl and treat her as such!!
HINT: It may help you get more second dates.