Dang you Mr. Darcy!!

If you guys haven't caught on yet I am a little obsessed with Pride and Prejudice, namely Mr. Darcy. I am seriously going to name my children after the characters. Bennet, Darcy, is Pemberly a cute name? Clearly I have issues but that's not what this is about.

I think Mr. Darcy's character has give us horribly skewed ideas about romantic relationship and men (what's new with Hollywood?). The thing is that he isn't made out to be an absolutely perfect man like most movies, that's why it's so deceptive.

Initially Mr. Darcy is a pretentious, pompous jerk. I love him but I'll admit it he thought he was much to good for Elizabeth's crazy family. I feel like her family is just like mine. We are so crazy!! But then he turns out to be a really great guy that actually does a lot of nice things for the Bennets.

While this is absolutely lovely to the romantic story (thanks Jane Austen :)) it isn't very realistic at all.

The problem is that we are lead to believe that guys that are jerks are really going to be fabulously romantic and tell us that they love-- love-- love us. But really they are probably just jerks and we shouldn't waste our time.

So while I love Mr. Darcy so dearly I have to admit to myself that he is a fictional character that is loosely based on a guy that loved Jane Austen (not me sadly). So even though I say I'm on a pursuit for my own Mr. Darcy the truth is that I should really be on a pursuit for my own Mr. Right.

Single ladies: don't let your image of what your perfect guy should be cloud your vision from seeing when he is right in front of you.

Mr. Darcy's Good Opinion

"My good opinion once lost is lost forever."

I am a huge fan of Mr. Darcy from Pride and Prejudice. If a man were to quote any of his lines (except the snotty ones of course) to me I would probably tell him that he has bewitched me body and soul. Ok but lets get to the read point of this post which unfortunately isn't actually Mr. Darcy.

But it is about what Mr. Darcy has brought up. Is a good opinion lost forever? Can you ever really trust someone that's broken your trust before?

Love this man.

To tell you all the truth I can't think of to many instances where I have been blatantly lied to. In the one case where it happened I don't think I will ever or will ever want to trust that guy again. But what if he had been someone I genuinely cared for and wanted a relationship with. I'm not sure about that. 

What's interesting about this is that we have trust in relationships to being with. There is so little trust left in our society. So few of us trust what we hear on the news or in the media. Even less of us trust politicians or our government to tell us the whole truth. 

Yet some how we are able to still have trust in the people we love or care about. That in itself is pretty incredible. It's amazing that we can find it somewhere inside to ourselves to have faith in each other. 

So if we can begin with so much blind faith in people that we love does that mean we can keep it up even if we've been "betrayed?" I guess it just depends on the situation and the level of betrayal that occurred. It also sort of depends on how much you can be ok with. 

Guess he changed is opinion :)

For some people we take the harsh Mr. Darcy opinion and our good opinion/trust can never be regained. While that may be the best method to protect ourselves I'm not necessarily sure it is the best option always. I think there are exceptions to every rule. 

What are you're all opinions on this subject?