Samantha Brick
Now granted this woman is very attractive, not like super model gorgeous though in my opinion, that is a pretty bold thing to say!! You can read her article here. But she has been met with A LOT of backlash for saying that she thinks she is discriminated against by women for being beautiful.
While I won't really go into whether or not it was right of her to write the article (personally I think she's probably over generalizing things). But it brings up the question of can you be to pretty??
Samantha dressed down.
I think that women do have a tendency to dislike other women for being beautiful. I know I do it more than I should but I often find out that these girls are so much more than just good looks. They're actually beautiful people on the inside to that deserve a chance.
So even though I may initially judge I won't let that stop me from getting to know you and possibly really liking you. Mrs. Brick says that even her close friends dislike her for being beautiful but I think that can't possibly be true if they are real friends. My best friend is one of the most beautiful women I have ever met inside and out and it just makes me proud to get to be her friend.
Even though your looks can make women initially judge you, your personality should make them look past that and like you for who you are. Clearly Mrs. Brick is either lacking in real friends or else she is doing something else wrong that makes her ugly on the inside.
What do you all think about pretty girls getting the cold shoulder from other women?
I watched an interview with her on TV this morning in the UK and spent the entire interview open mouthed and shocked. Regardless of her physical appearance, this woman is ugly inside. She comes across as totally deluded with an enormous ego- not attractive in the slightest. She truly believes ALL women hate her because she is 'beautiful'. I can hand on heart say, I am not an attractive or 'pretty' woman and I have NEVER hated another woman based on her looks. Ever.
ReplyDeleteI can honestly say of all of the women I know, they are of the same opinion. Looks and physical appearance is a very subjective thing - what is attractive to one person may not be to another.
I think it can happen, but it helps if they are friendly so that people want to get to know them. I kind of think this lady is super conceited, but she probably has some true points.
ReplyDeleteI think she is a bit conceited :)
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I think that her article was pretty egotistical, but to an extent, I agree with her. I don't think I'm the most gorgeous person alive or anything, and truthfully, my choice to wear glasses versus contacts has led to less guys hitting on me. But frankly, my boobs are huge (32F), and with my petite frame (5'2), I get negative attention from jealousy. Completely unprompted by me, flat-chested girls will make remarks like "Well, you have a great chest, but at least I have amazing BLANK." Like that makes them better...? Or I'll find out secondhand that girls will criticize my choice in clothing as "slutty" or "inappropriate," because my tops will reveal cleavage. (The only shirts that DON'T show cleavage on me are turtlenecks & crew-neck tees).
ReplyDeleteOf course, I'm also criticized for being self-confident. Girls are happy to compliment you and support you when you have low self-esteem, but the second you stop hating your "flaws" (think Mean Girls), oh, hell, no, you're being vain and conceited and should stop.
I would never generalize for all females, but in my experience, many girls & women are insecure to an extent, and they will take it out on otherwise lovely people--including their friends.
im a little guilty on being a tad bit bitchy towards someone I found to be really pretty. Insecurity on my part because I heard she was a total sweetheart. I can hate on her article because in the end she said what most of us have thought at one point or another.
ReplyDeleteAlright, granted it isn't a popular thing to say and being "too pretty" is preferential to...not. But I think she ultimately makes a good point. I'm not saying that I am super model gorgeous by any means. I'm heavily flawed and all that. However, being a pretty girl can sometimes cause the wrong kind of attention. When I go out with friends, guys can't help flirting, even if it's inappropriate. My girlfriends don't always want me to come along because apparently I "get all the attention", and it's really awkward when a total stranger chases you down the street asking for your number so he can take you out. Turning men down isn't a fun thing to do in the best of circumstances. Sure, these sound like nice problems to have but it can be really frustrating.
ReplyDeleteThe other issue is being used. I've dated plenty of men that, in hindsight, weren't interested in getting to know ME at all, they just wanted to show me off to their friends. And after a while it can be really hurtful.
When it comes down to it, I think the point of the article was that there is no BETTER way to be. Being less attractive can be tough, and someone who doesn't consider them self to be pretty may think pretty girls have it so easy. All Brick was saying is that it isn't all it's cracked up to be and I'd have to say that in the end, I agree with her.
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ReplyDeleteI am finally getting caught up in the blog world and so happy to be back! I read this article and the whole time I just kept thinking "this is a joke, right?" Anyway, my husband always thinks I am ridiculous for judging (i.e. not liking) certain people because they are too pretty. This mostly happens with famous actresses, and I don't know why I do it, because it's not like it matters what some random stranger looks like whom I will never meet. But still, it happens, you know?
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